He sent a text yesterday telling me,he is still with me and will always be with me,he loves me and needs me,but he is still a bit distant! the hard part is we have a very deep connection, we understand eachother, and have the best friendship any partner could have I have recently told him on a few occasions how unhappy I have become. You, me, and probably thousands of other girls are in the same boat right now with the Coronavirus. When I asked for a picture of his siblings and friends, he refused again saying they are private people and doesnt have to do with our relationship. Oh my goodness. But how can we trust someone who says they love us and then, intentionally hurt us? Im just a girl whos watched a fair amount of psychology videos, but I hope that this advice helps you!! Thanks for letting me vent gals. Any thoughts ppl? From what i have learned about him, I know he is someone who does not really know what dating is. Thanks for your confidence in a random stranger. i simply dont understand this. he is such a mystery. You have to be more understanding. He used to do all these romantic things for me before we went long distance. Also, the hard thing is, were in the same college course. please give me an advice. But I am tired of not having a life together anymore. We started with skyping during weekends, to calling sometimes to texting only and recently weve stopped texting as often. Interestingly I dont really like his love, yet Im the one trying to maintain a sex life and hes the one being cold and avoidant? I have a lot of questions, but no answers. He doesnt pay me a visit at our house- he actually did, 3 times to be exact (there was a celebration in those times). YESTERDAY I TEXTED HIM AN TOLD HIM THE TRASH SMELT BAD AND HE SAID OKAY ILL TAKE IT OUT WHENI GET HOME. God bless! I have asked him to write more often if we do not physically meet so often, but I dont want to keep pushing him for more attention. For example, he never said that he was looking forward to seeing me when he made plans to hang out, so I stopped doing that. He said he was going to do it. But nope as well. Last week he finally invited me over to his house after not seeing him for almost two weeks when he had his daughter. I buy him presents, I shower him with so much love. With his work schedule he doesnt make any effort. My birthday weekend was really rough. It shouldnt have bothered me except the fact he didnt get me one. When I text, he ignores them for hours even when he is online in the meantime. Would you be better off without him? Hi, you should not be with this person. Im ready to forget everything he did to me and start to trust him.. Wht are the things i can do to bring back trust, spark, and energy to our relationship Please help me.. Thnk u so much. I assumed I was losing my shit and being too emotional, but its the 70 hr work week and the MBA When you go without sleep for extended periods of time, you start developing symptoms that look similar to depression. The man is now in jail. But the communication thing has really slowed down. On the other hand, if your man is more independent and hes not used He is perfect to me but like anyone else comes with problems. And I know its not healthy to compare your relationships to others but Id be lying if I said I never wish my relationship was more like others. He doesnt think. I feel stuck, tired and so vary heavy like every step I take is being pulled back by large bricks as everyone else passes by at a much faster rate. However, he has never been one to put in huge amounts of effort. Right now hes not even talking to me. If so, you have to trust that your relationship can handle this temporary lull in affection and attention. I dont feel that he supports me in my decisions on things. To never have to apologize to me, to never have compassion, to never find contentment, to never make up for hurting me, to never stop enjoying it. There is little to no effort from my boyfriend and every time I try to communicate that with him nothing changes. His was 9 years ago but he is still very bitter. So my boyfriend and I will have been together for a year this november. It makes me feel like 1: he now feels a connection with this woman he does not with me and that is why he feels so contemptuous towards me all the time now 2: pissed off that he KNOWS it bothers me, is not able to understand why I feel that way and simply disregards my feelings maybe even doing it on purpose?? 1 Assess the situation. I think I should take a relationship break but dont want to lose him. Nothing on either Valentines Day (was REALLY pissed the first year, this year I knew I wouldnt get anything so I didnt get him anything either) and on my birthday, he said that he had a present for me at his house, then later said he had to order it. I envisioned a life time ahead of feeling let down by this person. But its weird because he texts me good morning every day, asks how my day is throughout the day, sends me updates on everything he is doing, etc. I stayed in that relationship. Should I just leave and find someone that can give me those things? Yet he continues to text me daily, send me daily updates on everything he is doing, etc. Im so upset. The only time hes gotten me flowers was when I left him one time. You should definitely read the book why men love b*tches this really goes into depth on why men do that. Hi Jessica, Sweetie this man is never going to love you the way you want him too.He may love you the only way he knows how and its not a healthy kind of love by your comments. My boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up recently, but within a few days, he decided he wanted to get back together to work things out. He Is Bored. fyi, he was at a party yesterday until 6am. This guy is really bad for you, and you know it. I love him to death, and I know he loves me. We have a beautiful home and are dog and cat owners. When i pull back abit, i notice it is when he makes an effort. The day he chatted he just really want a date for that day and as we go along he confess to me that he has a crush on me since 6th grade and told me he really want to have relationship with me in high school but didnt make it because he think of me highly that he is afraid he gets dump by me so the ending he courted my bestfriend. i feel lonely in my relationship because it is very one sided. Everything is done ON PURPOSE to stick a fork in his eye like youre not that important, sorry. However, I do know something that will help immensely. When we are together he is so sweet and wonderful. Then rock bottom hits, I ended up having to go to urgent care bc of an allergic reaction to a flu shot I had gotten. He said he loved me pretty much from the beginning, but never made an effort to see me or make plans unless I suggested it. I am not sure what to think or how to react, I really like him and he is a good respectable person. When this happens occasionally, it's normal, but consider it a red flag if it's happening constantly. Besides, if hes almost 60, he might be a little old for you. Its been an extremely rocky relationship but has the tendency to resolve itself. He doesnt make an effort to recognize and validate your feelings. He blames his lack of functioning on his religious faith. i just dump my 2mnths loveless relationship before it gets deeper. And I decided Ive had enough, and it wasnt even a full month yet! I dont want a father figure, i want a man that i love to show love to me. Ive held up my end and have been a loving girlfriend but Im not getting much back, but am also afraid of being alone. In a year and a half weve gone on maybe 2 dates and I had to beg for them. He had stopped taking pictures of me, he stopped liking my pictures in social media, the gifts stopped, and overall I felt as a hassle when I hung out with him. And you need to figure out why youre not asking him to treat you better. We usually see each other every weekend but he normally works 6 days a week, 10 hours a day so we actually spend less than 24 hours a week with each other. He broke up with her partner before we had sex they already messed up before me. I dont know what else to say about any of it, but I do know that Im getting more depressed by the day. If you aren't getting the attention you need and deserve, it may be time to move on. But If they are not- I think you have to consider moving on. But Ive just always felt like im not one of his priorities. If your boyfriend never made an effort to begin with, then he may simply be lazy or indifferent to building and maintaining a relationship with you. Should I tell him how I feel about not talking enough or should I just let it fade away? I was in so much pain and he couldnt even come to check on me. Ive been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, i love him and I know he loves me back but, my biggest insecurity is him changing and being lazy in the relationship, which I have noticed he has been doing lately. Cant believe how common my situation is right now. 36 Questions to Ask Your Partner That Lead to Love, 6 Signs Youre Growing Apart From Your Partner, take a negative toll on your relationship, determine if the partnership is worth mending. He only tells me he loves me on text hardly to my face until I say it first. However his texts are friendly, never intimate or flirty. We are ok, but I still do everything, I cook everything, he never cooks for me, I clean, washing, I get the shopping, he wont even take the bins out when I ask, because of my approach apparently. Ive thought of letting him go because hes not what I want in a relationship, but hes the only one in this world that knows every single thing thats been in my head. Im going to be a junior in a few months and hell be a freshman in college. So many thoughts, so many scenarios. Maybe he will brush his teeth at lunchtime but often he just smells like armpits and looks like a scruff and then wants to come to our clean bed that way. We have had sex, one time. Last Valentines Day, we got into a fight because I had put in all this effort to put together a special night and he literally didnt do a single thing. and guess what? He talks but does not deliver. The more effort you put in, the harder it will be for you to leave. The first year was good, with what I call sparks! He is very sporadic with hugs and holding hands. ? line and starts listing all the nice things he did recently. and that is why up to now im still here with him despite the unhappiness. but when you asked him he keep saying i dont hate you i hate your attitude sometimes. This is literally me. I am retired. Weve had a roller coaster of a relationship. Even after arising that issue betwn us, he didnt make any efforrs to regain my trust for him. Are you still in your relationship? Thats the one thing that i really expect. If you depend on him for your self-identity and self-image, then you have to learn how to be an emotionally strong woman in your relationships. Then I get a text at 10 pm! We were together for three years. But i couldnt regain my trust for him again. Also he NEVER wants to have sex so that concerns me too. Let him see how much you value the relationship, remind him of how much you have built together and feed on what you both can achieve without hindrance. Something went down and he doesnt want to confess. Fine, dont come. We moved forward and ever since our relationship has been better than ever. Because of the pandemic he doesnt have work and hes enjoying being with his family so hes not in any self chaos mode. He was blowing me off each and every time. I dont know what to do. The three emotions you suggested we wrote down mine were: Last on the priorities, unloved, lonely/lost. Within the past 2 years. Things are getting better as we learn about his condition and learn the tools to manage conflicts between us. Forgive me for my writing as it is 1 am. If I try to tell him how much I care he insists I dont. you can still offer him emotional support (from a distance) if he needs itgood luck, xoxo. Thats Progress! But we continued texting and he just ghosted me. I love my boyfriend very much but he is so difficult to understand in the morning you will text with much love and in the evening he will tell you I dont know how to love, you deserve someone better who can give you money among others . hes always busy at work. Its really hurtful to live with, and it really makes me feel unappreciated and un loved. We look for people to fill our emptiness and when they arent meeting the standards we become emotionally unstable. Whereas if I was in his situation I would just leave (not during the lockdown). Carve out time for conversation, get in tune with their needs, stop avoiding difficult chats, empathize with what they say, and listen to how they say it. Oh n did i mention that i literally have NOWHERE ELSE TO GO? I mentallyI dont understand the action itself . I was the one initiating our relationship and I feel like he thinks just being there is enough for me. from there we started to be friend. I feel like Ive tried everything to get us back on track so weve just spoken on the phone & hes going to think about things tonight. I came across a guy who seemed familiar but had a different name. Im slowly giving up but everytime i try to let go he acts like he rlly loves me and he wants me back. He apologized but I was just so hurt. Recently I even paid half of his carnote because he didnt have the money until next week & I couldnt get my hair or nails done. Thats why I feel like I need to leave. Adeli, I was in a long distance relationship for 1 year, so I understand. Back as a baby, he said the vet said not to let her sleep or have that on for a while because she is a labradoodle and it makes their hair very knotty and bad for their skin. I cleaned his puke and poop from damn near halfway up our bathroom walls from when he got e.coli a few weeks ago, but we have a housing inspection on the 28th and my house looks like a storage unit and its filthy! Needless to say, I do not want to get married, to see if that will make a difference. After that night i got my phone taken because my grades were awful (bc of home issues) so me and him didnt talk much but that did not stop me.I would sneak the phone and iPad all the time and talk to him still but then my mom found out about this boyfriend of mine (my sister is a snitch) and i told her that i liked him but i wasnt dating him. But loves to act as if what Im saying isnt logical. At the beginning, I was super in love with him and I would put in so much effort. His brother lives for free with his mother and he has nothing but contempt for him over it. And im as asian girl. Just because he misses a few phone calls or texts doesn't mean he is ignoring you." All I want is for us to share things I love together and not just his hobbies and interests. Anniversaries, birthdays etc. But then he keeps telling me he loves me, he cares for me, Im matter and important to him. Also i didnt know if i could put this but yes I did give myself to him and it was my first time part of me regrets it and part of me doesnt but I promise it was legal but yeah. My boyfriend of 7 years had lost interest over the past year, not wanting to see or spend time with me, 3 months now I havent seen him once. His self-absorbtion is engrained and chronic- and not my issue to fix. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I just want to have a nice time, an interesting conversation. Any facetimes we would do were 90% instigated by me. But after reading the article I realize that Ive just been complaining but I have never taken out the time to ask him, what a healthy happy relationship looks like to him, what his definition of effort is, or what kind of life does he want us to live, with me planning everything for us or what he wants. Is he telling me things just to shut me up or does he blurt things out impulsively. Should I leave? I relate so much with this comment its exhausting. Nor the stress of my mothers battle with stage 4 cancer. The way he acted after you said you need a romantic date, even if you said it while in tears or upset, is absolutely unacceptable. So yes hun step back cause I think we are doing too much. Im not sure how to approach any of this with him. Hes sees things in one paranoid way only, that Im selfish and dont really love him and just like the things he can give me. Then nothing. Its 90 degrees out so I thought Id stay cool and look a little less like I live in a dumpster. I feel its all one sided. You cant make him love you, or force him to make an effort in your relationship. Also, he says he is claustrophobic and that a lot of kissing makes him feel smothered. :'(. Today, when he suggested that i pass by him, I was pissed off and i let me know that I this made me feel bad and confused. everything stopped. The man I end up with will not leave me hanging feeling sad and confused. He Found Someone Else. But I clearly have seen enough examples of the ones who simply stops caring when they are sure that we will be theirs and we will always care about them no matter what. August came around I went back to school. my ex best friend told him everything and ever since then its been a nightmare. When your message doesnt have a question mark in it, he might not realize that youre waiting for a reply. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months also and at the beginning he put in so much effort above and beyond and now its like he is a different person. Ive put my career aside to help him build his business. He wont think through things for different perspective. I love him very much and I know that he loves me but deep down i often wonder how much i mean to him or if i mean much at all. Often the dog doesnt get walked for a few hours in the morning because I have to get myself and the kids ready before I can take the dog out when really he could just get up and do it.He never wants to come on walks with us. Sometimes I felt that he was mad at me, he would say that I was a show off or that I always took things too seriously. 7 years this month, no anniversary, didnt even notice actually. Youre not alone my girl xxx, My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2yrs now, everything was all good until the beginning of 2019,he started to distance himself from me, one day I received a text message from a strange number asking me if I know my boyfriend and if we are dating, I was calm and honest when I answered the text, I went to whatsapp and checked the number out and I saw the photo, it was a lady texting me, I asked her who she was and she said she was just a friend to my guy and she noticed that lately my guy has been stressed and she thought it was a lady stressing her, thats why she snooped on his phone and got my number, all this time I remained calm, thee following day I decided to go to my boyfriend house without informing him, it was around 10pm, I met with the same lady their, my guy was not around, I got inside the house and the lady went straight to sit at the bed while I was sitting at the chair, I couldnt wait any longer I went home, I couldnt get in touch with the guy on phone, his phone was off, the following day this same lady called me at around 7pm telling me that my boyfriend is sick, I went to his house and I found the lady with my guy sitting on the bed very close, I was still calm I said hi and I sat on the chair, this lady excused herself and left me with my guy, I asked him who was the lady and he told me that his best friend was dating Herr so they are just good friends, we spoke and everything was good, the following day in the morning this lady text me and tells me why I came to break that guys heart, the guy told the lady that I had come to break up with him, that I told him I found another man, I never said anything like that, why was my guy lying? I didnt hear from him till early Sunday morning when I drunk texted him. Its going to make me fall out of love as he is so defensive and cannot solve the issue. I have been dealing with a lot lately. This leaves us hanging on in hopes they will be that guy again. But things went roughed to both of us.. Feel so down on a Friday night. My guy is the same way. I am going through something eerily similar as you described. Where Im at in my life, after 5 years, if Im not a fianc, Im gone. One thing I have learnt over the years is that we shouldnt let our kindness be a weakness in front of men. Im an emotional person but I always try to talk and let him know Im upset so that he knows not to act a certain way. He never compliments me, from my perspective he only tells me when Im not doing something right. You have to be willing to become selfless. Some of your traits are similar to mine and some are similar to someone that I was dating at the time. Lives like a pig in his own house. Ask yourself what could be causing your boyfriend to pull away from you. Then make him work for you! It doesnt matter what words youre saying, the message is clear: I will tolerate this, as long as you let me explain repeatedly why I dont agree with it. The most important lesson Ive learned from my love life is this: My role is to set boundaries. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 yrs & was confused and often questioned his love for me & his commitment to me. Then he complains when I dont cook dinner after working 10 hours a day, I work four-10 hour days, and says all I know how to cook is chicken, which Im a great cook, he is just too lazy to do anything what so ever. Try not to get upset, irritated, or emotional. Stacey Laura Lloyd is an author with a passion for helping others find happiness and success in their dating lives as well as in their relationships. After that we were so in love and we talked all the time everyday. Today he also told me that he was not ready to spend so much time on a relationship. I do far too many things for him. Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year, but we have known each other for 10 years. In fact, he rejects them flat out. This is all so contradictory and Im confused about our relationship. I used to blame myself but I took DBT and have actually tried employing the skills I learned. That said, he told me hes doing a lot better now and hes still acting distant. You dont have to ask him to take care of you or pull you out of that sorrow. WebHe gets upset when he sees me giving attention to other guys but goes back to ignoring me when I give him attention. He had had so much time to think about and plan for any of the above and a week before our anniversary had started lamenting how the holidays are too close together and it is hard to think of any good gifts, so he did nothing. His complaint is that no matter what he does is never enough and that I dont contribution anything. Honestly,I am fully aware I do not want a relationship with someone who acts like this and makes me feel this way, but I am in love with him and our relationship is great, when he gives 100% which I can not let go of, when right now its about 10%. Like by shouting Im gonna get scared or intimated. We have amazing communication, we text all day everyday, see each other at least 1-2 days a week, we dont argue much, our sex life is greatMaybe its just because this is my only problem that it feels like a big deal? NO AFFECTION. He feels sex is for marriage. These are no games. Do I let this person disrespect my boundary? His plan to get a better job (he was very cocky and confident a massive promotion would just land on his lap as soon as he graduated like one day someone would email him out of the blue from Linkedin and offer him a CEO job or something) so he has become depressed. wishful thinking: wanting to be wanted deeply wanted to feel like a woman kisses, grabbed, eye gazed wanting to be complimented and acknowledged. And I get it, hes never been through the same things but I expect that. We both still live at home and even tho hes nearly 21, his parents still have some control over him, he doesnt talk back to them and theyre weird about him staying in my house and doing stuff with me (sometimes not all the time!) His What am I not doing for you now that you want me to do? or Have I not done enough for you? bullsh*t attitude is bringing me to near madness. He goes out at night with his friends when his daughter is staying with him, but uses her presence as a reason not to spend time with me, yet he is happy to do Thanksgiving together. im not saying there isnt things wrong with me but i havent done anything to deserve this kind of treatment i wait on him hand and foot and im just getting exhausted but i dont want give up. And i couldnt forget it. My first true love affair and I got completely ripped off or short changed. Which I practically felt alone and excited to do things by myself. This guy never learned to be a good partner, and it sounds like he doesnt know how to try now, either. Please advice me on this. thank you so much for posting this article since i really need clarity for my mind . Dont forget, you deserve affection, effort, and communication. You only care about yourself, youre lazy out of anger.. which it catches up to me and makes me awful because I know his lack of energy plays a large part of it but how am I supposed to feel or do.. to make it even better he recently told me after a large fight about laundry or something I barely remember, that hes decided to go for traveling nursing in California this spring because he will make more Money (something he is very stressed out about) and I dont know what to do because thats not part of our plan. We only see each other every one or two weeks at the most. I know thats not what you want to hear. Perhaps you're the one whos losing interest: If you're constantly distracted, always on the phone, and aren't invested in your S.O. Coming to the realization that a partner is no longer emotionally invested in your commitment isn't an easy pill to swallow, and it's definitely not something to ignore. One of the issues I have had for almost 2 years is that he does not put effort to see me. This makes me Am I the problem here? That same night, he stopped replying and was offline cause they had some family time and it seems his granny got ahold of all the electrical gadgets to make them sleep early.He told me the next day and we did catch up.I thought we were going back on track until he,again,stopped replying at some point. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months. He begged and begged for me to forgive him, that it was mistake. THEY ARE DRINKING AN BECOME LAZY. We still work on a project together so its not like I can just cut contact entirely, which I figured might be the reason why he is continuing to text, like he doesnt want things to get uncomfortable between us. Also He text slow and we converse only when we have some argument. Its Valentines Day and this is the only holiday or day in general I care about. Please advice and apologize for the long narration. After his birthday he left his sisters and moved in with his mom. When I got back to our dorm that night I ft him and told him it felt right but It was also an accident. We are in LDR. I signed up for therapy and told him that if my behavior was hurting him, that I was willing to change. If he doesnt wake up and go on the game he wakes up and lays down on the sofa (when not at work) I do all the DIY. How much time should I spent apart from him and not talking to him? We fight a lot almost every week because my needs are not met. He may be afraid to show sensitivity, make sure to let him know that its okay for him to cry. If you almost never see each other, then sitting down to talk about your relationship or his lack of effort would look much different than if you live together. I have felt hurt and abandoned, left out, unwanted, ever since he started his masters two years ago and threatened by his preference for them over me. 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