Its like a surgeon in a surgery room see a person bleeding to death and hes like well hope you will clean up the mess when you get better cauz i wont and leave I mean.. its insane They have 0 logic.. 0 brain. I have included a link if I may that may help with some understanding of the situation. My question is, is it possible for someone who is narcisstic to have a result from one of these quizzes that comes back saying he is likely autistic when he is not? So in recent years Im stronger than ever and able to stand my ground. Thats my biggest question right now. And from that point you are going down the superficial hill that most people go down when they do not have the skill, experience or knowledge of autism. This article is great and I love the comparison table. A total war going on but its not on a military or country level. Narcs are the cause of 90%+ of all the problems, pain.. everything in the world. No more ongoing psychological/emotional problems. A lot to learn but worth trying. All it did was turn everyone against me even more. I hope Ive explained it so you can understand what I am trying to say. She claimed that the texts, which contained inappropriate images of cartoon characters, were offensive and degrading.The employer, however, was able to. I had no less than 3 personality disorders in a span of 10 years before getting an autist diagnose. 4. Permission to publish granted by Sharie Stines, PsyD, GoodTherapy.org Topic Expert. Elizabeth he is a narcissist, I lived with one for 38 years and he almost destroyed me and his family in the process of trying to be in control. Narcissism is nothing more that a set of hooks for the unsupported autistic mind to function. These decisions are dolled out in a typically binary fashion, with no expectations So I told him I reccently did an Autism quiz and it came back saying I was very high on the autistic side of the spectrum and should get assessed. Im 73 now, and feel better than Ive ever been in my whole life, more cheerful, creative, mentally aware and relaxed, etc. Perhaps, unless someone who is really close to them, knows them well and can see it. I am not talking about the narcissist here they are a different kettle of fish. So is this why its called the autistic spectrum? Thats why i stay alone, in my place. I am an advocate for marriage, I believe in it and I greived greatly when my marriage ended. You only have one life you can live, no one gets a second chance. Lol cauz if narcs feed of peoples misery i dont. From what you have said, he considers you are the problem in this relationship and this is the reason why he is making statements that it is not working and hes telling you this with his list. This is typical narcissistic behaviour and is a tactic they use to demoralise and destroy the confidence of another person who allows them into his or her life. And then 1 therapist.. her boss and the director of the foundation cornered me.. 1 hour beating me saying i should find a work (im disabled! Narcs if only they could self-destroy each other instead of trying to beat the few good people that are left in this world haa :(. bargain for. For instance, I have autism, but Im not one-dimensional, I behave differently around different people (as does everyone you dont behave the same way to your SO as to your boss and to your friends). Narcissism is a personality condition that ranges from mild to severe. I personally feel if anyone wants a good example of a full blown narcissist, the president of the USA is one of them. I thought the list was a bit one-dimensional and generalizing, in fact. You did it with the narcissism and heres my congratulations for trying your best to understand that complex situation. I could right a book on this subject as lots of people afflicted with these conditions want a decent relationship and to be loved and honoured as most of us do. We have been in our current home for four years, and its part of a rental scheme where the rent is below market value. I watched a DVD recently by a psychologist called Dr Richard Eisenmeyer. I feel there are no two individual people in this world that are the same or lets say I have never met them, but then I am no expert on this. She kept sending me by force to therapies then after enable me to gamble use my father psychological attacks on me or do it herself if need be to take me down down then when at the bottom .. finish me off with a big loan i never wanted. They pushed me and then sometimes helped or suggested me student loan or something like that, that they would sign for me etc. I am greatly sadened by this and wanting to share my life much more with family around but because I loved him very much and need to accomodate his needs Im struggling to find the balance. They would constantly say im evil and i ruin everyones life and i believed them but the facts were not adding up. I think I partly understand why it went but it would take a lot of explaining, and Ive probably written enough in this comment. Even 100 years ago, it would be very rude to ignore a letter. These experiences and many many more in life, has contributed to a metaphor, this has helped me clarify what happens in life, Imagine: group of 10 people in a room with a small bust in the centre of the people sitting around it, one person is totally blind (but he has no idea he is) The other seeing people dont know hes blind but just has some peculiar mannerisms, everyone is talking about the lovely blue marble bust of a Queen. Psychopaths, autism, empathy, and mirror neurons. I didnt realize that but it makes sense. I tick many of the boxes of the list in this article and its so confusing. The answer is that they are. I had to read up on why this man was different & now I understand him a lot better! I have therapists and psy because i just have no choice. 9. Yes, there can definitely be a difficulty mixing with ordinary people, it appears to me that there is a deeper and more involved line of thought with someone with aspergers, whereas it is more surface thoughts with the ordinary type of people, unless they actually specialise in a particular subject. I am aware there is no known info whether or not it is hereditary but always wondered because of others in our family with it. It has brought me to a place where I find myself valuating my life, my relationships. An afterthought, research the effects of heavy metals and food additives. My reaction scared me and I finally left him for my own sanity. Am not religious, a scientist but not a materialist. Usually children of abusive or inadequate parents and have to learn to survive growing up, perhaps without protection or guidance of any kind. Some are lucky to find someone who can cope with the behaviours developed by the unfortunate individuals, but many fall into excruciating crises in older age. Because my daughter is a slow reader and finds it hard to take in all the information at once, I have been reading these books to her one chapter at a time in the evening. Thank you. I figured early that things were wrong, my parents, brothers and other members of my family were doing/saying things that are horrible often totally illegal. I really feel for the people there, they are getting many conflicting messages. For a man this is a somewhat embarrassing and diminishing situation and causes stress in itself. Continue to sistersensory.com.au All 20 Deal 20 Free Shipping 2 $18 Off Deal Sensory Space Just Low To $18.00 At Sister Sensory Ends 6-11-22 Get Deal $11 Off Deal Self Care And Grooming From $11.00 At Sister Sensory Ends 25-10-22 Get Deal $11 Off Deal.Sister How what??? I never truly had gf or friends most were all narcs that had felt my weakness (my parents work on me made me behave like well, a weak formatted slave a perfect target for narcs). So i stayed solo and worked on myself. I take everything as its not in a hospital that i willfind the answers i am looking for and looking for people with a title that says they are professional in that is just asking for trouble narcs love these positions of power No go. I cannot help but point out any inconsistencies or double standards and am unable to take them in my stride or let them go. He is a generous man and good fun to be with but six months was a short time to evaluate the relationship. Break up and never look back. Were still talking a month after I left and he knows I still have feelings. All I said to her was that she struggled with things like object constancy and devaluation etc. Very good, helpful article. I dont intentionally do these things, but the result is the same: hurting the one person I have in my life (I dont have friends or family aside from her). I apologise for this being so long, but its a huge subject with a lot of traps for the unwary. If you are worried about the mental health of yourself or someone you care about, prioritize it. Overtime, he has also changed to do some of those things too. Im not perfect either but telling him my point of view or that you feel left out or asking for the same emotional support I give him (my daughter is going through tremendous health problems) shouldnt be called a lecture. I have a daughter that is Level 2 on the Autism spectrum. Inappropriate sexual behaviour was being exhibited too. I would have thought either you do them willfully or your are unaware of them altogether. Im a laid back person & im used to him not talking to me & wanting his own space to do his own thing & not socialising , but sometimes he gets me so stressed I end up with a bad headache & feel sick. I am so glad I am not the only one struggling with this diagnosis dilemma. Ive noticed when I interject a remark to change the subject, he pauses then launches right back into what he was saying, he doesnt even register what Ive said. It does a lot of harm how many people do you think dont get diagnosed because they have lots of enoathy so therefor believe they cannot be autistic? It was amusing when I read your sentence think of all the mean things hes done to you, not the good things. and my immediate thought was, what good things? Im very patient with him. I wonder do you feel that the more he tells you it is not working the more you want to help him because you feel he has a problem you may be able to help with? I get silence which is painful to me but caused by his inability to communicate. How can narcs understand me, how can narcs call other narcs for waht they are. Some autistic people can lack empathy (but only through not understanding a situation entirely once you explain what is going on they will show huge sympathy and understanding for the situation). I have also recently realised that there is a recognised name for how my hub makes me feel energy vampire . However, hes very one-dimensional and not connected to his feelings. It was one of the saddest days of my life yet it was also one of the most powerful as I had spend a lifetime being controlled by this man I tried so hard to love. After my email.. they made me pay for it on the spot.. they called ambulance.. said i was being sent to hospital (my family used that to control and scare me sendm e to hospital calling me crazy without reasons to destory me). 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