2-min read. I don't wanna loose her so I texted her all the time. I do worry a little bit since she rebounded with him for 2 1/2 months the first time we went our separate ways while in college. This happened too fast to be any other explanation. I NEVER thought I'd meet someone as wonderful as him or have a relationship as special as ours was. Things WILL work out for the best. That is the type of relationship you deserve as well, and you will see that it'll come to you when you least expect it. Her decision to focus on herself has made me a better person and no matter what happens even if she finds somebody else, I will support her no matter how much it hurts. Even after she informed me she wanted to take a break, and after the picture of her having drinks with this other guy, she wanted to explain herself face to face. Girlfriend Needs Space/Time from 5 year relationship. Any advice? Don't waste your time. Boyfriend broke up with me because he needs to focus on himself. Yes, this is most likely, as people who really love you will never let you go, not even once. Try not to overanalyze anything she says or does in the next couple of months. You already said she has panic attacks. I will wait as long as it takes and be there for her in any way I can. Being newly single quickly loses it's appeal when their ex immediately accepts the decision and appears to be moving forward with a more interesting life. I'm not gonna lie, she's cute af, even my parents don't believe me when I say I'm dating her. I know it sucks but this is probably for the best. Most live-in relationships will end. I couldn't grasp how she wouldn't have 5 or so hours a week to talk or see each other. Fortunately, once she saw that another girl posted on my wall she deleted me. Thats what her actions say. Thank you for your response. Body Language Central IS A PARTICIPANT IN THE AMAZON SERVICES LLC ASSOCIATES PROGRAM. So i said we are, but not platonic I'm so grateful that you all have taken time to help a stranger out. She is very adamant about me not being in contact with one of my exes, whom she has always butted heads with. Its basically your call in the end because this is your life. She means the world to me and I don't want to lose her. She is in her last year of college and cited the amount of work she has on her plate. I'm very scared that in the future, when she is ready, that she will be with someone else and that's my biggest problem.. Not all relationships work out. The reason behind the break up doesnt matter. My boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me a My ex girlfriend wants time to focus on herself. she said we should give it some time before talking to or seeing each other again, a week or so,and she was said in this time I'll probably stalk you on face book and cry a lot. I felt like I was back to square one. I was easily lost in a dark forest of emotions in a relationship where my feelings were not reciprocated. Is this okay? 2+ year gf says she needs space/time to focus on herself. This is one warm hug you don't mind getting from her, just like all the other crumbs of attention she throws your way. One day, you will look back on this and want to thank your ex for this for allowing you to get the happiness you deserve. and because she likes me so much, i'm always on her mind and the feeling that she's constantly disappointing me by not spending enough time with me is actually giving her panic attacks, (which she does get, sometimes to the degree that she has to breathe into a paper bag) and that with her upcoming responsibilities on the horizon, she knows that if we stay together we're going to break up anyway. Hello and here's my story. She is too young for you, and like most people in her twenties, still has a sense of adventurism, a certain level of immaturity, and a curiosity about other relationships. and "you're so handsome" or "i love when you talk, because you're such a complete person" or "you're amazing". Broke up, help, Mom isnt talking to me and being ridiculous. If you made her the sole center of your universe, and didn't keep up with guy friends besides her brother, and you don't have any hobbies/interests, then maybe she felt smothered. I did, and she said I was very cute. I haven't asked her about it yet. I will point out that we never officially took on the title of boyfriend and girlfriend again. Please don't dwell on the break-up as much as I did. I am heartbroken for the first time and I hate it. But on the other side you are also free to meet someone who fits you. Enforce the no-contact rule. If she would truly love you, she WOULDNT want to have you hanging, she would know how it hurts and she WOULD let you go. Had a straight face and then said she wants to be free and live her life as a 23 year old and can't do this anymore. Ultimately knowing yourself is the key to enabling oneself to walk the path , the path of love. But once school starts she throws you and excuse that she needs to work on herself, but what she really means is she wants to be with the other guy and feels guilty for leading you on. I will try to explain my situation in great detail. Type above and press Enter to search. At first I kind of thought this girl just disliked me. Maybe it's the best thing for her to be free from thinking so much, and be a little carefree. It's hard to think that she may have met someone else (since the signs were there). Hello, so my girlfriend told me that recently she doesn't feel like herself, like it's a instinct feeling that she's not like her usual self (for example her name is Jessie and she said "I feel so lost and I don't feel like Jessie") I searched online and saw that usually this means that they lost interest in you. If you can do that, you will be good. Only if it meant she could be happy. Girlfriend Says She Needs to Focus on Herself, By entering this site you declare If anyone got married the extended family has always been invited without excluding anyone. Thank you. We had so many moments, and i know she felt it too. We had a great r My girlfriend always brings up a time when ive cheated on her. She was so focused on me getting into dental school last year and didn't really worry about herself. It *****. My girlfriend broke up because she needs time to herself n s My girlfriend moved out after a year and said she needs time 3 days ago my girlfriend decided to end a 4 year relationship, I suggested time apart instead. As soon as she told me that she needed time, I already knew she didnt love me enough any more. It was a long paragraph but long story short, She said she really appreciates it and that I should just live my life, "you gotta love yourself before you can love someone else, The other person has to be prepared and so does the other person too." What's your opinion, friends? The posts answer the questions they ask. It's when she wraps her arms around you and pats you on. And when can I start talking to her again? To view the purposes they believe they have legitimate interest for, or to object to this data processing use the vendor list link below. What I'm having most trouble with is what seemed like her sincere desire to focus on school and her career. can we still mess around? 12 years ago. When we see each other on the bus, she sometimes looks at me and smiles and I smile back too of course. We are both at critical points in our lives that will shape who we become in the future. So, she has said that she needs to focus on herself. So, the next day i hit her up like what was good with that, whats going on and she starts to cry on the phone, and says she can't do the relationship, and that because she's getting busier and busier with new classes and work, she only has about 1 or 2 days a week to herself Well, she may want space, but that doesn't mean that she should be the only one making demands. You will eventually meet someone else. In this video, I discuss why she has said she needs time to focus on herself and why she is asking for a break. I then responded "I don't think so." I plan on initiating no-contact starting right now, but am pretty much lost on everything else. I am sure if I had stayed the same guy I was prior to meeting her she would still be crazy in love with me. 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I asked her if I should move on or wait and she won't answer that, all she does is say she believes we will get back together and gets a little emotional if I hint that ill move on. I just genuinely believe that if we were to date now we would fail. You should always be doing this anyway. It hurts me but I will not call her or text. Friday was when she saw that another girl posted on my Facebook wall, she liked the post, then deleted me. But even more than that I can't seem to grasp as to why she would go through all the trouble she did to explain herself multiple times about her reasoning. I really do appreciate your help. Then after comforting her and getting her to talk about her feelings, she finally said she is just confused in life and doesn't know what she wants. You are worthy of someone better, be happy. What is the use of just ****ing her? I wish that didn't have to happen but her mom is sick and she is trying to get into doctorate school so she has a lot on her plate. Until then I have no interest in any other girl. And once you stop contacting her if she really cares about you'll she'll reach out if she doesn't then obviously she didn't care/like you that much. Remain a friend and if things get really serious and you both take the next step then you'll both be clear on what you want in a relationship. That one is easy, she still has feelings for you, see the thing is, even if she was the one that broke it off, the fact that you are doing okay, is going to be an issue for her, it is just an ego thing, that is just the way it is. But I am curious, guys Why do you think she deleted me? It would also be helpful to consider the way that she interacts with other people. i don't want to be doomed to being that. Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as: Then it would be more likely that she is not interested in you. Only this time I hope to be strong enough to simply say "**** off". I am trying to be strong and care less about the whole situation. First offyou asking "can we still fool around" when she's breaking things off for a little while just imprints in her mind that you are just out for the sex. If that is the case then it would be more likely that she would show signs of not being interested in you when she is around you. Even if she finds somebody else, be there for her. Hey Tanner-- hope you're feeling a little better today. I've never really developed an ability to pick up chicks as I've never had to try. You just have to move on with your life. We were together for 6 months and it was the happiest time of my life but she didn't feel I was committed to her. My wife says she needs time and space to find herself and see what she wants. Respect Her Wishes Your next step is to respect what she wants. I cannot truly be happy and satisfied with a relationship with you until I am happy and satisfied with myself. You can send her a text or E-mail or whatever, but keep it small and to the point."Hey, thinking of you" or something like that. Asked me to move out that night even while I had tears in my eyes and then her Facebook page removed the pic of us and just a pic of her is there now. You should wish the best for her rather than pass things off as "her anxieties going to mess things up". Do you think I may be overreacting? I feel I am better prepared to take necessary action to get her back for good. And am also in a fragile state as I have to been "in the game" for quite some time. Answer (1 of 5): You could see it as HER turning ME away, or SHE is sharing something that is on HER mind/ that she's concerned about. If she was annoyed with you then it would be likely that she would have shown it in her body language by doing things such as: If she was annoyed with you then it could be the case that she does actually like you. Should this be cause for concern in my relationship? It's so important as men in relationships that have little to no clarity that we follow our own path and not be led by others. reply. I have to focus on myself and you must focus on yourself as well. Are you wondering what this means? Spend as much time as possible with family, friends, trying new hobbies, going on adventures, exploring new career opportunities, etc Not only will it help you move on from the relationship, but it will certainly make you more attractive to new girls and maybe even your ex. It is over. Obviously, I love the girl and would like to get her back, although I feel she probably doesn't deserve me. Change yourself for the better. Let her be for a while longer. Since there are a number of reasons why a girl might say that she wants to focus on herself it is important to consider the body language that she shows around you and the context of how she said it. I have not spoken to her since Wedneaday when I saw the picture, which was taken in early February. Even if you have words of encouragement, that's fine too. This would be more likely if she said it when arguing with you or after you had done something that could have annoyed her. TikTok mom who got 'dumped' while pregnant shares how Tinder date became her fianc. Next semester of school came around and we were still doing our thing, but she became a little more distant. So, what does it mean when a girl wants to focus on herself? She actually took care of me more than herself. Hopefully, many of you have advice. really hoping that you have a positive update to share. I wouldn't take offence to it at all. It was just hard to see her so plain stone faced during the "breakup talk" while I was full of tears. Until, I saw a picture of her with the guy that she rebounded with from our previous relationship. It is human nature to want to know why. Just look after yourself first. Ex Girlfriend Needs Time to Be Independent and Find Herself. If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as: Then it would be more likely that she does like you. I'm grateful to have the help of others in such a difficult time. and she said "if we can, maybe. The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). Girlfriend hasn't contacted me in 2 weeks after saying she need time. My ex pulled all the same stuff that your ex-- in my case, it was just indicative of his ego being crushed that I didn't wait around pining over him forever (he never came back). Each will be different so dont compare any girl to past ones you have dated. either that, or no. reading what Stephanie put actually cheered me up because its true theres no point wasting time on people who don't care. We and our partners use data for Personalised ads and content, ad and content measurement, audience insights and product development. Mistakenly, I let her back in too easy. I have not confronted her about the picture yet. I promise you the world has much more to offer you. The relationship with the guy could only be platonic, but it would appear that they have something in common, which is different from what you bring to the table. My heart dropped in my stomach and felt numb. and she sent this (apparently faked) drunk text saying she feels sick and is about to take a cab home, when she's really at her friends house partying. It could have been the case that she was annoyed with you at the time and she said it because she wanted you to go away. You, along with the others, have helped calm me down a bit. The thing you have to know is that every single woman will lie if you ask her that question in this situation and tell you its not true. But you are not going to get the answer you want when you want it. I moved in with my girlfriend of about a year and a half at the end of August. Do not contact her man. - Dating Question you are 18 or older, you read and agreed to the, What should I text my ex girlfriend after No Contact/Giving her Space. Just lose her, why fighting a battle wich is not worth anything? She went on to say that she doesn't like having to worry about making time to hang out or feeling bad when she has to break our plans. And while I do not know for sure what her intentions are with this other guy, I do agree that if she's "so busy" then she shouldn't be out with her friends and this guy having drinks. Another reason why she may have said that she doesn't want to lose you is that 3. 3 great months of dating leads to unexpected breakup. Body language signs will usually have multiple different meanings making them unreliable on their own. Sad but true-people on this website should trade each other's posts and read them. Anonymous. Its not going to be the same, no two girls are going to be the same. My.relationship is the same way right now she says she needs time to focus on school and all and that she doesn't have time for a bf and that we will make it work I'm just as lost as you we were togther for a year and 3 months I could Deff use advise her status on fb are always happy does she think of me and love me like she always said she did.I can't go. Its a double edged sword as I can check up on her, but am also hurt in doing so. He said I acted like a ghost mentally? Stop trying to impress . Did you confront her about the picture? (25-29) So this older woman accidentally added on Snapchat and sent me a nude pic of herself. Remember that it is only possible to use those who wish to use you. Manage Settings Simplicity.. keep things simple and easy and try not to over think and accept the here and now. It's hard to fight for someone that doesn't want to be fought over. Absolutely and without a doubt focus on yourself. Another common reason why a woman says she needs space but still loves you is because 3. Anyway, my question is should i let her know we can be friends? Started 20 hours ago, By Maybe she genuinely feels anxiety about everything and needs you to understand. I don't understand. For over a year I thought my world was over because my fiance left me. Your words are very encouraging. Continue with Recommended Cookies, By The relationship was great until I had a slip up our senior year where I wanted to explore what else was out there. Then one day I decided it was time for me to pick myself up. Don't worry about the future at this time, or what will happen if she meets someone else. I was at ease for a few days. When considering what her body language could be suggesting it would be helpful to consider a number of signs at a time. I'm the same way, I just want a minute of mental peace and for my heart to stop beating so hard so fast. 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